Tag: writing

Sante!

A pretty cool package arrived by FedEx yesterday: the new Cooking Light anniversary cookbook, for which I did all the wine and beer pairings.

I don’t actually ever make Cooking Light recipes, with the exception of this amazing Thai pork (sorry Jan, I know you’re going to say it’s not really Thai) that I make all the time and that everyone loves. Derek calls it “Peanut Butter Pork,” so the dinner guests are usually pretty freaked out about it and are relieved when it turns out to be this amazingly tender pork blanketed with sweet, spice, salty, and sour.

These pairings were a last-minute “Hey, we should add wine and beer pairings to some of the recipes” thought by the CL staff. I got the call, and said yes (duh). I do a lot of pairings for the magazine, but this is a whole other thing, the flagship cookbook, a quarter-century after the magazine began.

I wrote most of them at the park on a summer Wednesday, where the kids and I spent the morning. I sat on the slide steps while Jonathan went up and down, up and down, and worked out the pairings with the help of a few phone calls to Derek to consult on the beer portion. It was actually rather complicated because some of them had to match the color of the drink in the picture, and I couldn’t use the same type of wine or beer over and over, but they had to actually, yanno, match the recipes.

So it’s not my book, but one I’m happy to be a part of. Even if I don’t exactly cook light.

On the nightstand, June edition

Our little Lutheran book club is on hiatus this summer, and in order to distract myself from the fact that I’m not going to law school this fall and to bolster up my enthusiasm for my business, I’m reading a series of creative/entrepreneurial books this month. They’re all very good (with the possible exception of The Four-Hour Workweek, which I haven’t read yet).

The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau isn’t so much a “how to become a millionaire from nothing” book as it is a “let’s rethink the traditional business model of get a loan from a bank/get venture capitalists to invest in my Big Idea, lease an office and employees and ratchet up expenses.” Chris values the same things I value: time, flexibility, doing what you love, purposely staying small so you can be flexible and not have to answer to the bank or to investors. I picked up some new ideas here about creating better passive income streams, versus what I currently do: charge for my time invested.

Rework by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson is a must-read for anyone interested in a new, transparent, anti-bureaucratic way of doing business. Advice like “Don’t be a workaholic. Just use your time better” and “Embrace constraints” and “Meetings are toxic” and “Interruption is the enemy of productivity” had me nodding in agreement through the whole book. My favorite:

Hire great writers. If you are trying to decide among a few people to fill a position, hire the best writer. It doesn’t matter if that person is a marketer, salesperson, designer, programmer, or whatever; their writing skills will pay off. That’s because being a good writer is about more than writing. Clear writing is a sign of clear thinking. Great writers know how to communicate. They make things easy to understand. They can put themselves in someone else’s shoes. They know what to omit. And those are qualities you want in any candidate.

These two guys run a multi-million dollar company with just sixteen employees–half of whom work from home all over the country/world. The other half are not required to show up at their Chicago headquarters unless they want to. Why? Because they get that geography, in today’s global/mobile world, is meaningless. That they’d be missing out on the very best hires if they only looked in Chicago. That getting together once or twice a year is valuable, but having endless meetings every stinkin’ day is not. That, my friends, is how you can run a multi-million dollar company with sixteen employees. You can get a lot done working from home sans meetings.

Quiet by Susan Cain. One of my friends said about this book, “I want to give this book to my entire family and all of my friends and tell them, ‘Read this, and  you will understand who I am.’” I’m a classic introvert in the sense that I get energy from being alone and feel drained after being with people and I prefer deeper discussions with fewer people than small talk with many people, but I’m neither shy nor sensitive like many introverts. One thing I found fascinating was the discussion about leadership styles. It turns out I’m more of an extroverted leader, motivating people by energizing them with my vision, while Derek is more of an introverted leader, motivating people by listening to their ideas and empowering them to execute. Interesting, because he’s more extroverted than I am in general.

I also loved the section on working styles. She talks about the big shift in schools and corporate America for group-based learning, open classrooms, and open office spaces and  how they encouraged more collaboration, but were deadly to introverts. (I know this is true: in 3rd and 4th grade, I went from straight A’s at a regular school to almost failing grades in the open classroom setting at Ralph M. Captain elementary school in Clayton, MO. In fifth grade, back in a closed-wall classroom, my grades went back up.) It also turns out, according to the research Cain presented, that collaboration doesn’t necessarily produce better results than individual thinking, and often it’s worse because people are both afraid to look stupid and are unduly influenced by their peers. Luckily for people who are easily distracted and think better alone, the tide is turning back. A sea of cubicles may be ugly, but at least there’s a modicum of privacy within so you can think, work, and check Facebook without your boss and colleagues looking over your shoulder.

The Four-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss is also in my pile. For a long time I resisted reading it, because I’m old-school and think working hard is a virtue. But after reading The $100 Startup I decided it was worth it to delve deeper into developing passive forms of income, which is largely what this book is about.

Next time I check in here, it might be from my tropical island, where I will be pulling in $20,000 a week in passive revenue while I sit quietly, alone, in a meeting-free zone, running my company from afar.

It’s a website!

I’ve been wanting to do a landscaping post, but we’ve had a much-needed rain the last few days and the ground is too squishy. Plus, the neighbor’s cat brought us a present last night and laid it on the hill behind our house. It was quite the housewarming gift.

It was a dead rat.

I’ve showered three times since finding it.

Then I made Derek shower six times after taking it away.*

Meanwhile, I’ve been busy inside. Those of you who know me know I pop out websites the way the Duggars pop out babies. My latest is for the newest incarnation of my business, in which I now have an official business name, license, and all the things I should have done a long time ago, but didn’t, because I never thought I’d still be doing this nine years later.

Here’s a sneak peek:

I used the Genesis framework from Copyblogger, and considering that the guy who runs Copyblogger is a writer like me, I figured there would be a lot of point and click areas in the back end that would make the design easy-peasy.

Nope. This guy is a codester. I lost the website trying to mess in the code, and ended up with a big to-do list for Derek so that wouldn’t happen again.

Now that it’s set up, I’m very happy with the design. The theme is mobile-responsive, which means no matter what device you view the site on, the text, graphics, menu, and sidebar “respond” to the size by optimizing themselves. Pretty sweet. Even my slider on the homepage is mobile responsive.

I always tell Derek if this pastor thing doesn’t work out, he can go into business with me. Between his web talent and my writing skills, we’d make a great team. I hope that never, ever happens since it would probably mean that the Synod, our immediate church, or Derek himself imploded, but it’s nice to know we could, if we had to. Meanwhile, I’ll enjoy the free labor in my own house. Thanks, D.

 

* Full disclosure: I actually just washed my hands raw, begged Derek to not do anything with it until after dinner, then sighed in relief when he went in and voluntarily showered after taking it to the curb so I wouldn’t have to avoid touching him for the rest of our lives.

Love me some fonts

I’m working on a redesign for my writer’s website this week. The design is outdated, and I need to revamp the content so it focuses more on my marketing communications writing instead of my magazine work. I was going to just slough it off and go to law school and forget about it, but now that I’m not going (at least for now) this project is like a little bandaid, because I do love a good website redesign.

I found an awesome template, too. See?

Now I’m trying to pick a font for my name/logo on the top of the site. Have you ever read KevinandAmanda? It’s a blog by this crafting/scrapbooking girl, and she takes people’s handwriting and turns them into fonts. I’ve downloaded all…ahem…300 or so. I could spend all day playing with these.

They are all so stinkin’ cute. And these are some of the more “serious” fonts!

I dare you to download them. Double dog dare, even.

This is me today.

“Yesterday was my Birth Day,” Coleridge wrote in his notebook in 1804, when he was thirty-two. “So completely has a whole year passed, with scarcely the fruits of a month.—O Sorrow and Shame. . . . I have done nothing!”

I do feel compelled to share this link from my procrastination: The 30 Harshest Author-on-Author Insults in History.

This one is pretty good:

20. Vladimir Nabokov on Joseph Conrad

“I cannot abide Conrad’s souvenir shop style and bottled ships and shell necklaces of romanticist cliches.”

And these:

15. William Faulkner on Ernest Hemingway

“He has never been known to use a word that might send a reader to the dictionary.”

14. Ernest Hemingway on William Faulkner

“Poor Faulkner. Does he really think big emotions come from big words?”

And this:

12. Oscar Wilde on Alexander Pope

“There are two ways of disliking poetry; one way is to dislike it, the other is to read Pope.”

And just one more, because Mark Twain is so funny and Jane Austen so demure:

4. Mark Twain on Jane Austen (1898)

“I haven’t any right to criticize books, and I don’t do it except when I hate them. I often want to criticize Jane Austen, but her books madden me so that I can’t conceal my frenzy from the reader; and therefore I have to stop every time I begin. Every time I read ‘Pride and Prejudice,’ I want to dig her up and hit her over the skull with her own shin-bone.”

Brain dumpage

Today’s jumble of thoughts, in no particular order:

  • I have a bunch of pictures to post, but haven’t even downloaded them off the camera yet.
  • I love this verse

The heart of a man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9

…and really, the whole chapter is wonderful.

  • I love this verse (and chapter) because I’m a planner and like to be reminded of who is really in control.
  • My brain is fried from interviewing and writing about intellectual property attorneys. It’s actually fascinating to talk to people who on paper sound the same (a long list of accomplishments) and to create a personality and give them dimension. But I go to sleep thinking things like “domestic and foreign trademark oppositions” and “with an emphasis on patent prosecution.” And those are things no one should have to dream about.
  • We are going to Tuscaloosa tomorrow. I’m interviewing for the Dean’s scholarship at the University of Alabama Law School. I’m thinking about wearing an orange shirt. (Kidding.)
  • The kids are skipping two days of school. Kate got both days’ worth of homework done in an hour. I told her we should do this every day and she’d have tons of time to play. She liked that idea a lot.
  • Derek is excited to go out of town, so I’m going to try not to whine about my huge workload or talk about anything related to intellectual property or engineers.

[Yawn.] Goodnight.

The tapestry of our lives

I’ve always been fascinated with the concept of the tapestry of our lives, how everything–actions, decisions we made or did not make, things that happen to us–are threads that weave the complex and ultimately beautiful fabric of God’s plans for this world. C.S. Lewis talks about how all of us, good and bad, serve to carry out God’s ultimate purpose in The Problem of Pain:

A merciful man aims at his neighbor’s good and so does ‘God’s will,’ consciously co-operating with ‘the simple good.’ A cruel man oppresses his neighbor, and so does simple evil. But in doing such evil, he is used by God, without his own knowledge or consent, to produce the complex good–so that the first man serves God as a son, and the second as a tool. For you will certainly carry out God’s purpose, however you act, but it makes a difference to you whether you serve like Judas or John. The whole system is, so to speak, calculated for the clash between good men and bad men.

In a letter to the family last month, my dad mentioned the tapestry in the most beautiful way.

Lives can indeed be damaged by sin, but the longer I live the more I know to the core of my being that ‘ALL things work together for good to those who love God, for those who are called according to his purpose’ (Romans 8:28). As the apostle Paul goes on to say, he has predestined us to be conformed to the image of his Son. God takes all the garbage that the world throws our way and uses it to kill our old Adam, so that a new man may daily come forth and arise. He takes our tragedy and weaves it into this beautiful tapestry with the face of Christ in it. We cannot see this image from our vantage point, or how our trials fit into the pattern, but make no mistake: they do.

The Small Catechism doesn’t call this life a ‘vale of tears’ for nothing. There is a lot of beauty, a lot of good, a lot of satisfaction during our lives, but also a lot of pain and suffering, a lot of futility, to which the whole creation is subject because of sin. But as Paul says in the same Romans 8, ‘I reckon that the sufferings of this age are not worthy to be compared with the glory that will be revealed to us.’

"Christ the King" tapestry by Graham Sutherland, Coventry Cathedral, Coventry, England

I think one of the biggest reasons we struggle with pain and suffering and evil is that we don’t understand why. The idea that even our suffering serves the pattern in the tapestry of life is intriguing and comforting, and it helps make some sense of the perennial question, why do bad things happen to good people?

We don’t have to have all the answers. But having a glimpse of how the threads of our lives fit into the weave is illuminating.

 

It’s not easy.

Ever since my ebook came out, people keep emailing me to ask how I do it all. I’m not gonna lie: it’s not easy. I get stressed out, overwhelmed, and frazzled sometimes. (Now. Now is one of those times.) I work my butt off from the moment Jonathan calls out from his crib at 6:30 a.m. all the way till 10:30 p.m. when I finally wrap up whatever work I had to abandon because the kids’ schedules took precedence.

Most of the time, I think I have the best of all worlds. I’m almost a stay-at-home mom, home with Jonathan four days a week (his dad is there the fifth day while I work), and half days on two of the days I work. I’m up with the girls before school, fixing their hair, packing lunches, collecting homework, scooting them out the door, and again at pickup time and before dinner when we work on homework, piano, and playing. I make dinner and we do family devotions. I get to put them to bed every night. I do lots of volunteer work for our church and school.

And yet, I have an intellectually-stimulating, rewarding, well-paying part-time job. Because of my job, we are able to put money in our retirement account, save for the kids’ college tuition, give to our church and other charities we love and support, and, quite simply, not wonder how we’ll afford groceries and diapers and the next mortgage payment. There’s a lot of peace and happiness in our house because I work. (Financial stress, not adultery, is the number one cause of divorce.) God has richly blessed our family through my business, and we are profoundly grateful and amazed.

But, as a writer-friend of mine once said, I sometimes feel caught between two “tribes”–the stay-at-home moms and working moms. As both, and neither, I don’t always fit in.

My natural tendency, a gift from my grandmother, is to work too much. I tame that tendency because raising my kids is so much more important than one more job, or a quick hundred bucks. But the tension between them, the question of whether I’m rightly dividing my time, is always there.

I don’t think there’s an easy way of talking about this subject. Anyone writing about staying at home versus working often comes off as bitter, self-righteous, defensive, or judgmental. Anyone reading about it will either nod in satisfaction because the writer ‘gets it’ or will judge the writer because she doesn’t. It’s a tricky subject, one that, for me, is occasionally filled with angst.

But then, after I pour out all the angst, hit “Publish,” and am immediately struck with a case of blogger’s remorse for putting it all out there in the first place, I think, it’s all going to be okay.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:28

Even when things are at their nuttiest, when I look forward to the day all the kids are in school and I have breathing space, or I wish I didn’t have to work because I need some breathing space (are you sensing a theme here?), I still look at our life objectively and realize that we do have it all. And now, I need to get back to work.

Happy Happy Joy Joy

This is me, doing the Happy Happy Joy Joy dance. I just landed a major client. Major, as in the first contract will be 1/3 of my income this year. Major, as in they love me and want me to do much more beyond this first contract. Major, as in the client also happens to be a law firm, so I will have a nice little addition to my resume (somehow, home and garden article-writing experience doesn’t translate. Can you believe it?).

I’m also relieved, because work has only been slowly steady lately, and I am happiest when I have a big full plate. Kind of like at dinnertime.

Update: Right after I posted, I read this. A magazine sale often means a new staff, which means the end of a long-term writing relationship. Much as I complain! about! all! the! exclamation! marks! in that magazine, they have been a good client. This project came at just the right time.

 

On the (figurative) nightstand

I don’t actually own a nightstand…or a headboard for that matter (we are clearly not quite grownups yet), but I do love to read. Here’s my current stack.

  • Luther’s Small Catechism. Last summer, our Sunday morning Bible study read the entire New Testament. I loved it. I had structure and a weekly goal. After it was over, I floundered for awhile wondering what to read next. I usually start in the Old Testament and get bogged down around Numbers, so I decided to go with the Catechism this time. It’s always good to review why you believe what you believe.
  • The Elements of Style. I read my old copy ragged, but it’s been awhile. Let’s just say I’ve gotten (metaphorically) fat and happy as a writer. I’m cringing through every page as I note my flagrant transgressions of the rules.
  • The Mosaic Artist’s Bible of Techniques. My sister challenged the family to do homemade craft projects for Christmas this year. Now she’ll have a hint of what I’m working on, but shh! Don’t tell mom and Trina, okay?
  • EntreLeadership. Derek and I are big Dave Ramsey fans. He’s got a new book about being a good business leader that I’m excited to dive into.

On the Kindle for Android:

  • A Year with C.S. Lewis. This book has dated daily readings taken from Lewis’s body of works. It’s a nice little read when I’m killing time in the car, at piano lessons, etc.
  • Law 101. This book covers in decent detail the six main courses everyone studies the first year of law school. I decided that if the book, which reviewers have termed “dry,” made me fall asleep every night I should reconsider law school. Happily, I’m finding it incredibly interesting.
  • The Lutheran Study Bible. The Kindle version is rather clunky to use as a study tool (flipping around between notes, references, and verses) but I hear an iPhone app is coming out soon. (Yay!) Hopefully Android is next. Meanwhile, this version is more portable than the actual book.
  • The Happy Lawyer. Everyone knows most lawyers hate their jobs. I wanted to find out why and whether it was possible to be in the minority (happy) camp. The answer, I think, is yes. I’ve interviewed plenty of lawyers for articles and the ones I’ve talked to love their jobs. I think the ones who are unhappy probably shouldn’t have gone to law school in the first place, but they didn’t know what else to do after college.

Okay, what are y’all reading? Put up a blog post or spill it in the comments, please!