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I heart the Avett Brothers

So last night I took four Advil, and Kate and I went up to see the Avett Brothers in Knoxville. Unbeknownst to us, Edie was there with her oldest child, too! We didn’t see her, because there were way too many people, but we had a fabulous time. I didn’t get floor tickets because I didn’t want to be responsible for Kate getting crushed at her first concert, and even though it would have been a blast on the floor, being sick I was soooo glad we had seats.

First, I have to brag that in the parking lot, the guy told me to back in. Now I learned to drive in Cresbard, South Dakota, population 200, stoplights 0. There’s no need to back in to spaces, parallel park, or any other sort of fancy driving there, so basically I’m the person who will park six blocks away and walk rather than parallel park or back into a space. However, I did back into the space, and I even made it between the lines. Success!

 

backed in


We had so much fun, Kate and I. Here’s the thing about the Avett Brothers: they’re actually good singers. They sing just as well live (if not perhaps better, because they’re putting on a show) than in the studio. There’s no need to fix up their voices in the studio because they can hold a tune in real life. Scott has the deeper, grittier voice and Seth’s voice is buttery smooth, making it sound so easy. They’re distinct and fabulous individually, and together make gorgeous harmonies.

It seemed to us that Scott had some sort of cold, as he gulped water the entire concert, his voice was sort of cracky and gravelly, and Seth did a bigger portion of the singing, but even still it was absolutely fantastic. They’re so versatile, jumping from guitar to banjo to piano to drums to harmonica to electric guitar, and singing nearly perfectly all the while.

(I should note at this point that my musically snobbish/classic pianist parents would be rolling over in their graves were they in their graves, and since they’re not I’m probably inching them there sooner with this post.)

kate_concert

My beautiful date.

The other thing about the band is you notice right away they have a LOT of really loyal fans. Everyone sings every lyric to every song, not just the “good” ones. Because really, nearly all of their songs are good. I can’t even pick a favorite, though they played tons of my favorites last night, including Slight Figure of Speech, February 7, Go to Sleep, Life, Paranoia in B Major, Live and Die, and the kids’ very best favorite, Kick Drum Heart. (Jonathan loves that song so much, and every time we get to the part where Seth screams instead of sings, he makes his voice all gravelly and he roars out, “Kick Drum, Kick Drum.” I tried for the umpteenth time to get him doing it on video and was moderately successful this time. About 2 minutes in, he finally sort of does it.)

The only one I didn’t get to hear and really wanted to was Sanguine, but really, no complaints. Around 6 p.m. last night I was considering just crawling into bed and skipping out, but I’m so glad I took the Advil and persevered. It was absolutely worth it.

Kate_me

Kate is gorgeous as always. I look like I feel…sick.

Here’s Kate’s video of February 7. She took some others, but this is one of my favorites.

And here’s a professional version of Live and Die, another favorite. “You rejoice, I complain, but you and I, we’re the same” is totally Derek and me.

I’ve been trying to figure out how to explain why I like the band so much, and I think it’s because if you really listen to the lyrics, they talk about so many big, heavy, weighty, beautiful things, and they seem to really get it, with “it” being the Christian life, in this world, but not of this world. The Weight of Lies is about creating an image of yourself and running away when it inevitably breaks. Ill With Want is about materialism. Live and Die is about choosing to make a relationship work. Slight Figure of Speech is a clever stringing together of cliches to tell the story of how the band went from nobodies to famous. Winter in My Heart talks about depression–”I don’t know what the reasons are.” Down with the Shine is a stand against glorification of physical youth. Murder in the City is about who and what’s important when it comes down to it. Sanguine asks for contentment. Life, which was the last song they played last night before the encore, made me tear up as I listened. It’s about how life is short–”we’re not of this world for long…we will never be”–and about how even though there’s a tension between the sinful world–”Oh, and you and I know all too well about the hell in paradise right here on earth”–there is hope in heaven.

One comes of it
Love it, love it
Let go of it
Love comes from it
We’re not of this world for long

Faith and promise keep me honest
When starvation falls upon us
Daylight told me he would be

Gone with cold words
Spoke among hers
Wretched in the tongue of their world
We’re not of that world at all
We will never be

Wouldn’t it be fine to stand
Behind the words we say in the best of times
Oh, and you and I know all too well
About the hell in paradise
Right here on Earth

Keep it, use it
Build it, move it
Planes can touch our time will prove it
Watch us fly as loud we can
Let her heartbeat change what I am now

Wouldn’t it be fine to stand
Behind the words we say
In the best of times
Oh, and you and I know all too well
About the hell in paradise
Right here on Earth

We let Kate sleep in this morning after the late night, and she was fretting over what to put as her tardy excuse. I said, “Overslept” or “Feeling sick.” Derek said “Went to once in a lifetime Avett Brothers concert last night and stayed up too late but it was totally worth it.” Err, that won’t fit on one excuse line, even if it’s true.

Phantom sick

The past few days I’ve felt awful. My body feels like it got run over by a semi, and my skin feels hot like I got a bad sunburn. But no fever. No sore throat. Nothing else, to the point that I think I’m imagining the whole thing. And then I get up and nope, it’s real. But it’s not.

I skipped choir last night. Tonight, Kate and I are supposed to go to my birthday present concert, the Avett Brothers. Tomorrow night is choir. Saturday is confirmation/first communion cake-making and our choir concert. Sunday is Kate’s first communion. There’s other stuff but suffice it to say it’s the biggest weekend of the year and my skin is hot and my body is achy and I can’t tell if it’s going to turn into something worse and I desperately want to feel awesome and get my energy back for all the stuff we have going on.

The kids have been great as Derek has been gone the past two evenings. Kate made dinner two nights in a row. Sophia rubbed my back last night and suggested that I’m working too hard. Jonathan told me in a concerned tone, “you need to take your medicine and get all better mommy.”

Yes, yes I do. By 8 p.m. tonight, specifically.

On the menu 5.12.13

But first, three quick notes.

1. My mom asked us girls if we wanted some thing she was going to get rid of, and I jumped on the cake platter she got as a wedding present. I don’t have a platter, and wouldn’t that be nice for company? But when it arrived in the mail yesterday, I was totally surprised. I thought she’d hang on to it and tell me I’d have to come out to get it. Thanks, mom.

cake platter

2. I went to Sophia’s Mother’s Day program yesterday. It was absolutely adorable. Her teacher is incredible, and we were sent home with multiple mother’s day gifts, including a book in which Mommy is as beautiful as a bunny. Awww. On the way out, I saw this:

sophia teacher

3. People keep emailing me and saying they can’t comment on the blog. I think Disqus upgraded recently and something’s changed, but I haven’t figured it out yet. Will work on it though because I love your comments!

Now for the menus.

Sunday: Big day: the rededication of our church sanctuary, DP preaching, me teaching Sunday school last minute, potluck lunch, friend Marissa coming to visit after church, and then Mother’s Day homemade pizza with the in-laws. I’m going to do one honey-garlic, so I can get the proportions perfect after the trial run last week, and one pepperoni/black olive/artichoke. Mandatory cheese: fontina, which Jonathan and I adore.

Monday: Only evening this week we don’t have a ton of stuff going on. I’m going to try Lauren’s Pork Tenderloin of Deliciousness, which she got from Southern Living, involving bacon, balsamic, and strawberries. Should be good.

 Tuesday: Derek has a marathon marriage counseling session (for a young couple, not us) at 6 p.m., so I’m resurrecting the turkey pumpkin soup and buttermilk drop biscuits that’s been on the menu for two weeks now but hasn’t been made. At this point the buttermilk is just about to turn and the celery’s gone bad, so I’ll need to refresh the ingredients.

Wednesday: Choir at 5:30. Leftovers.

Thursday: Sophia gymnastics/Kate honors choir/Kate and I Avett Brothers concert (!!): Another busy evening, so Trader Joe’s artichoke ravioli with vodka sauce, extra buttered noodles for the kids, and a salad.

Friday: Choir at 5:30. Chinese Chicken Salad, which is basically a hot stir-fry you eat over iceberg lettuce with a side of rice. It’s my mom’s recipe and we love it.

Saturday: Choir concert 7 p.m. Derek and I were sitting around this morning and I was asking what to make on the final day of the week. Kate reminded me about the Fluffy Ricotta Pancakes, I remembered we’ll have leftover bacon from the pork tenderloin, and Derek pretended to be annoyed at us.

Last week’s recap:

Sunday: Going to Knoxville friends’ house for dinner with a bunch of our favorite couples.  Asian sweet potato salad was a big hit (so was Melanie’s chocolate cake).

Monday & Tuesday: Derek and I will be in Fall Creek Falls for the spring pastor’s conference, which is supposed to be good, although the food will not necessarily be good. (This bodes well for the weight loss, along with all the potential hiking we can do if it doesn’t rain.) We have decided to be Super Coffee Snobs and bring our own coffeemaker, so we can have a truly lovely vacation together. In my defense, it was totally his idea.

The coffee was a great idea. We get up early on East Coast time, and had tons of time to sit around our room, admire the view, and sip delicious coffee before heading off for a day of seminars and very bad fried food in the dining room. I ate salad for three meals in a row, and yes, a few more tenths of pounds were lost.

Wednesday: Choir at 5:30. Turkey pumpkin soup and buttermilk drop biscuits, if we’re home from Fall Creek Falls in time, it’s not 100 degrees, and other such contingencies.

Didn’t happen. Derek and I ate a late lunch on the the way back from Fall Creek Falls, so we had the kids pack up snacky-dinner stuff to eat while we were at choir.

Thursday: I accidentally overbooked Sophia’s gymnastics, Kate’s honors choir, and my chiropractor appointment, so it’s going to be a rush-rush kind of afternoon. Thus, a Trader Joe’s (Trader Giotto’s as he’s known on the Italian labels) vegetarian pizza for supper.

Trader Giotto’s will not make it into the family repertoire. We are all spoiled with homemade pizza.

Friday: Against Derek’s will, Fluffy Ricotta Pancakes. Not that he has anything against pancakes, ricotta, or fluffiness; he just prefers them for breakfast. But he rejected my idea of Huevos Rancheros so I struck back.

The kids and I met Melanie and Roger and their kids at the Beer Market instead, where I had a gift card from my old work. We drank a beer and ordered pizza (green olive, artichoke, feta, onion, and bacon–definitely going to try that combo on a homemade pizza soon). Derek’s parents rescued him from the dreaded pancakes with an offer to eat ribs at their house after choir practice.

Saturday: Our DP and his wife are coming for dinner, and then he’s preaching at our sanctuary dedication service on Sunday. We decided on Spanish cheese and sesame crackers for appetizer, Chicken with artichokes and angel hair pasta with salad for dinner, and rhubarb cake (if I can find rhubarb, because would you believe it’s really, really hard to find in the south?) and bittersweet chocolate mousse torte if I can’t.

Rhubarb at the Kroger! It’s all happening as planned.

Fall Creek Falls

This Monday-Wednesday, Derek and I left the kids in the safe and capable hands of Grandpa and Grandma and went to Fall Creek Falls State Park for the spring pastor’s conference.

First thing we did was drop our bags, lace up our shoes, and go out for a hike to Fall Creek Falls. With all the rain this spring, the falls were gorgeous.


fallcreekfalls

We hiked down to the bottom and got as close as we could before the spray soaked us.

fallcreekfalls_bottom

Monday afternoon and Tuesday, we listened to sessions with Pastor Wilken (apologetics) and Pastor Weedon (liturgy and mission are not mutually exclusive). Incredibly interesting and riveting, which is why we were really torn Tuesday afternoon about staying for one of Weedon’s sessions and a bunch of District business, or going out on hike #2.


Weedon

Wilken

We chose the hike, this time to Piney Creek Falls, which is smaller but more remote and, we thought, more beautiful. First, we did the suspension bridge over the creek.

bridge

Then on to take a rest in the sun and watch the falls for a bit.

pineycreek_rest

And back to Fall Creek Falls for another peek from the top.

fallcreektues

On our way back to the conference, we saw some deer. That was when I was starting to miss the kids.

deer

Wednesday afternoon we arrived home. Derek rushed off to a hospital visit and then choir and Bible study, and that evening the girls both wanted to cuddle with me when we said bedtime prayers. With my arms around them (and the two-year-old flailing around somewhere nearby and not quite praying as solemnly as I would have liked), we said our prayers and I tucked them in and was glad to be home.

On the menu 5.5.13

What’s cooking at the Roberts house this week? Just this:

Sunday: Going to Knoxville friends’ house for dinner with a bunch of our favorite couples. We’re all bringing meat to grill plus something else. I’m bringing teriyaki marinated chicken and Asian sweet potato salad. The sweet potato salad is so freaking good, you have to make it to believe it. All the sweet, savory, and spicy flavors come together with soft potatoes and crunchy snow peas and peanuts to create a perfect food symphony. Also, I’ve heard rumors that Melanie’s bringing her famous chocolate cake with chocolate buttercream frosting, which isn’t boding well for the weight loss project.

Monday & Tuesday: Derek and I will be in Fall Creek Falls for the spring pastor’s conference, which is supposed to be good, although the food will not necessarily be good. (This bodes well for the weight loss, along with all the potential hiking we can do if it doesn’t rain.) We have decided to be Super Coffee Snobs and bring our own coffeemaker, so we can have a truly lovely vacation together. In my defense, it was totally his idea.

Wednesday: Choir at 5:30. Turkey pumpkin soup and buttermilk drop biscuits, if we’re home from Fall Creek Falls in time, it’s not 100 degrees, and other such contingencies.

Thursday: I accidentally overbooked Sophia’s gymnastics, Kate’s honors choir, and my chiropractor appointment, so it’s going to be a rush-rush kind of afternoon. Thus, a Trader Joe’s (Trader Giottio’s as he’s known on the Italian labels) vegetarian pizza for supper.

Friday: Against Derek’s will, Fluffy Ricotta Pancakes. Not that he has anything against pancakes, ricotta, or fluffiness; he just prefers them for breakfast. But he rejected my idea of Huevos Rancheros so I struck back.

Saturday: Our DP and his wife are coming for dinner, and then he’s preaching at our sanctuary dedication service on Sunday. We decided on Spanish cheese and sesame crackers for appetizer, Chicken with artichokes and angel hair pasta with salad for dinner, and rhubarb cake (if I can find rhubarb, because would you believe it’s really, really hard to find in the south?) and bittersweet chocolate mousse torte if I can’t.

Last week’s recap:

Sunday: Derek’s birthday! Finally pinned him down to a birthday meal. We’re having his parents and our friends (and their son, our godson) over. He’s ordered

  • Steamed artichokes with lemon-butter sauce for appetizer
  • Sliders with cheddar and hot sauce
  • Arugula salad with lemon and Parmesan
  • Macaroni salad (luckily my MIL is making this because I don’t have a good recipe on hand)
  • Grammy Ardis’s flourless chocolate mousse cake with raspberries and whipped cream

All was delicious.

Monday: 6 p.m. Kate’s school play. Broccoli galette, which we ate standing up at the counter, Passover-style, and made it to Kate’s play with time to spare. And yes, she deserved an Oscar for her performance.

Our little actress.

Our little actress.

Tuesday: Grilled chicken with artichoke pesto. This was in the most recent Cooking Light and the pesto looked fun; it’s basically a can of artichokes instead of basil or arugula. Eh, not bad, but I’d probably prefer regular pesto next time. Derek got a big ol’ steak for his birthday from his parents, a high-end piece of meat from the right side of the tracks, so we grilled that for him. He and Kate enjoyed it immensely.

Wednesday: Choir at 5:30. Turkey pumpkin soup with drop buttermilk biscuits. Not really the season for pumpkin, but everyone loves this soup and it’s easy to make on a rush-rush day as Wednesday always is. Wednesday turned out to be hot, and we had leftover grilled chicken and a small baguette to use up, so I tossed grilled chicken salad and dumped in all the leftovers I could find in the fridge (including black olives, which turned out to be a yummy addition). For the baguette, I used 4 tablespoons of butter instead of the recommended 8 to make homemade garlic cheese bread with a mix of Parmesan and CoJack, the only thing left in the fridge after our Costco run. The bread is soooo easy and delicious, I will never ever ever buy that margarine-laden crap at the grocery store again. Ever. However, note to self: do not make garlic bread on Wednesdays before choir, because even gum-chewing and tooth-brushing will not help your cause.

salad and bread

Thursday: Sophia gymnastics, Kate honors choir. Fish tacos with tomatillo sauce. Another Cooking Light recipe that I’ve heavily modified (I think in order to save 5 calories they add 5 steps). I’m going to mix some leftover jarred tomatillo sauce with a little mayo or heavy cream, cook up the fish, warm the tortillas, and mix up some cabbage with lime juice and salt. And serve. There, five steps instead of fifty.

We actually went up to Knoxville Thursday after gymnastics and used up a long-hoarded PF Changs gift card, and then went to Trader Joe’s to stock up on cereal, cheese, marinara, olive oil, and a few frozen goodies.

FridayEdie’s honey garlic pizza. Been thinking about this since she posted the recipe. Delayed until Saturday! We made fish tacos instead since the fresh fish place is right by the library and the kids and I swung by to restock on books and return movies. 

Saturday: Leftovers or grilled chicken salad (a meal Derek often asks for that seems so simple, I never really think of it). Tonight is HONEY GARLIC PIZZA night. Finally! I actually started mixing the dough last Saturday, but then our friend Susie, who had the girls out, called and said she was bringing Pizza Hut over. I put the dry ingredients away, but then read on Heather’s blog that salt kills yeast, so I’m dumping it and starting fresh. I won’t take any chances.

(P.S. Heather’s pizza is so on my to-make list, too.)

TK Things

1. I love TK, an editorial substitution that means “to come,” as in “TK Ways to Clean Your Bathroom” or “Photo illustration TK.”

2. This post is brought to you by the TrekDesk.

3. I should be writing the eleventy million more paragraphs of copy I need to write for the new site so I can be somewhere around 5 percent done. Instead I’m writing this TK list because my brain is greened out.

4. There’s snow in Colorado. On May 1!

5. Finally I figured out how to get the scale to budge. There’s not much to throw overboard, since I don’t eat fast food or drink soda, besides two things: the kind of food we eat, and the accompanying glass of wine or beer with the meal. I chose Door #2. Salad and bird food is great once a week or as a side dish, but I refuse to actually go on a diet and yo-yo around for the rest of my life. It’s all about portion control, baby, and long-term discipline (says Derek, aka the most disciplined eater ever to walk the earth). So the magic scale-moving is being accomplished by temporarily eliminating the empty calories of Zinfandel and Hoppyum.

6. I love my husband. Even when we are fighting we still love and respect one another, and he’s so calm and rational and patient in a way that offsets, well, me.

7. I just took four Benadryl dissolvable children’s tablets zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Oh, sorry. To combat the Itching Eyes from Hell horror show. They’re making me tired, so it’s a good thing I’m walking on the TrekDesk.

8. Before Derek’s birthday, I asked for and got my own early birthday present: tickets to see the Avett Brothers in Knoxville on May 16, with Kate!!! See #6 re patient and loving. I’ll add “generous” too, because all I got him was buy one, get one free Starbucks coffee.

9. On Sunday evening, we’re getting together with our old friends in Knoxville. I miss them terribly and am excited to see them again and to send one family off to parts unknown aka new job in Missouri.

10. Women’s magazines hardly ever use even numbers like 10 or 25, because studies show they appear to be inauthentic. I mean, 25 ways to save $100 (actually the title of a story I wrote once for Woman’s Day) makes it seem arbitrary. 23 ways to save $100 is totally legit. You quit when you have the best tips.

11. I can’t quit at 10.

Lovely

It poured rain Saturday and Sunday, so much so that everyone who came to church Sunday joked about needing an ark. Sunday afternoon, when I’d just gotten Sophia and Jonathan tucked in for naps, we saw a bolt of lightning so close and an instant, deafening clap of thunder so loud and strong that even Derek and I were freaked out. We ran up to kiss the little ones and make sure the top of our house wasn’t on fire, and then waited the rain out.

(Update: the lightning actually did strike a house  not too far from ours. Fortunately no one was home and there was minimal damage.)

I actually love spring and summer rain in east Tennessee (though I do not love getting three kids in and out of the car in the rain). This morning the trees are especially green and lush.

morningyard

View from the front porch.

Yesterday was Derek’s birthday, and we had a lovely evening with his parents and our friends Christopher and Sarah and their son Charleston, who is nine months younger than Jonathan. We grilled sliders (luckily the rain had stopped and more luckily, Christopher is a chef, so he took over the grilling and I stayed inside to put together the salad and such). Christopher made some sriracha mayo (delish) and the fresh Hoppyum beer from The Market and the artichokes and macaroni salad and flourless chocolate cake were yummy, even if the menu was a little summer-ish and the weather was practically winter-ish.

The girls made Derek and their grandpa giant post-it note birthday cards, did a cheer that was something about “Go, Daddy! Manpower! Daddies rule, brothers drool!” Adorable and hilarious.

Daddy's cards. Grandpa's went home with him.

Daddy’s cards. Grandpa’s went home with him.

And now it’s Monday, and the busy week starts again. Kate’s fourth-grade play is tonight. I’m overwhelmed with the details of a new business and making lists and refusing to panic, although it’s tempting. Sophia’s got Stanford tests this week (and unlike Kate, she feels no pressure whatsoever).

Jonathan is getting over a double ear infection brought on by drainage brought on by the incredible amount of pollen floating around. He’s also getting into Elmo’s Potty Time, the movie, and I Can Go Potty, the book staring Kermit the Frog. We have new and newly-washed Thomas the Train underwear stacked in his drawer. He’s saying “I’m still little,” but we keep having conversations about him turning three in June and then he will be “bigger” and how “bigger” boys go on the potty.

(As an aside, sometimes Jonathan can pull out the southern-est drawl you can imagine. And other times, he sounds like a mountain boy. But when he says “bigger,” he sound exactly like Gru in Despicable Me, which is to say he sounds Russian.)

This boy potty-training gig? I have no idea what I’m doing. Which is why I’m glad we have a man in the house.

On the menu 4.28.13

This week’s menus:

Sunday: Derek’s birthday! Finally pinned him down to a birthday meal. We’re having his parents and our friends (and their son, our godson) over. He’s ordered

  • Steamed artichokes with lemon-butter sauce for appetizer
  • Sliders with cheddar and hot sauce
  • Arugula salad with lemon and Parmesan
  • Macaroni salad (luckily my MIL is making this because I don’t have a good recipe on hand)
  • Grammy Ardis’s flourless chocolate mousse cake with raspberries and whipped cream

Monday: 6 p.m. Kate’s school play. Broccoli galette

Tuesday: Grilled chicken with artichoke pesto. This was in the most recent Cooking Light and the pesto looked fun; it’s basically a can of artichokes instead of basil or arugula.

Wednesday: Choir at 5:30. Turkey pumpkin soup with drop buttermilk biscuits. Not really the season for pumpkin, but everyone loves this soup and it’s easy to make on a rush-rush day as Wednesday always is.

Thursday: Sophia gymnastics, Kate honors choir. Fish tacos with tomatillo sauce. Another Cooking Light recipe that I’ve heavily modified (I think in order to save 5 calories they add 5 steps). I’m going to mix some leftover jarred tomatillo sauce with a little mayo or heavy cream, cook up the fish, warm the tortillas, and mix up some cabbage with lime juice and salt. And serve. There, five steps instead of fifty.

Friday: Edie’s honey garlic pizza. Been thinking about this since she posted the recipe. 

Saturday: Leftovers or grilled chicken salad (a meal Derek often asks for that seems so simple, I never really think of it).

Someone asked me by email the other day why we eat before choir at 5:30 and before other events. The answer is simple: the kids. The kids go to bed at 7:30 (Sophia and Jonathan) and 8 (Kate), read for an hour, with lights out at 8:30 and 9. They’re up at 6:15 to catch the school bus at 7 a.m. With choir, for example, we don’t get home until nearly 7, and that’s the time we go upstairs for jammies and teeth-brushing and stories. Plus, Derek’s still at church to teach Bible study, so when we eat early we get to eat with him. On a normal night we eat at 5:30 or 6. Maybe that’s impossibly early for other people, but it works for us (until I go out of town on a press trip and dinner is served on the West Coast at 8 p.m. (11 p.m. my time) and it’s a seven course meal and seriously, I just about die from late-night overeating. Luckily, those days are over).

And a recap of last week:

SundayPeanut butter pork and rice & steamed veg, by Derek’s request. Actually moved this to Monday and went to in-laws for farewell dinner of Derek’s aunt and uncle, who were visiting from South Dakota. MIL made an amazing grilled chicken meal, marinating the chicken in mayo and mustard, which is surprisingly simple but made the chicken both tender and tangy. Monday’s PB pork was delish.

Monday: Bowtie pasta with pancetta and leeks, a Pioneer Woman recipe. I use bacon instead of pancetta, but between the bacon and the cream, it’s a pretty delicious meal. I add a salad so as not to feel guilty. Made this Tuesday. Trying to save calories, I added more white wine and less cream. Opinions were mixed as to the results.

Tuesday: Leftover peanut butter pork and vegetable.

Wednesday: Ginger scallion noodles. This is a modified David Chang recipe of fresh ginger, scallions, oil, salt, and rice vinegar on top of ramen noodles. I add soft-cooked eggs and mung beans or snow peas for crunch. Probably salad as a veg. Made this Thursday; Derek was at a friend’s house and Jonathan had a raging ear infection brought on by too much drainage from allergies, so he ate nothing, the girls ate plain ramen noodles and raw snow peas dipped in ranch, and I had the souped-up version alone. It was, as always, incredibly good. When you fry an egg and leave the yolk runny and punch it over these noodles, it gives them this thick, delicious saucy taste that perfectly complements the pungent ginger-scallion sauce. Mmmm.

Thursday: Greek feta sliders with Tzatziki sauce (a Bon Appetit recipe) and steamed spinach. Never made these as I had an extra meal planned due to last-minute Sunday invite and Derek’s request to have sliders on his birthday.

Friday: Kate’s First Lutheran BFFs are sleeping over; she ordered nachos for dinner. I will cut up apples and try to be cool about not forcing a vegetable down their throats for one night this week. Actually ran out of apples and made them eat green beans. I added a little butter and salt and–amazingly–they loved them. Nachos were inhaled as well.

Saturday: Chicken Souvlaki with leftover tzatziki sauce, rice, and broccoli. In case you’ve never had chicken souvlaki, it’s this delicious grilled chicken that’s been marinated in a lemon-garlic sauce, grilled on bamboo skewers, and dipped in a cool yogurt-cucumber sauce. Heaven.

Addendum to Pity, party of one

Yesterday I wrote this post in reaction to a post on an anonymous blog that was written by a pastor’s wife. I can sum her original post up this way: “I didn’t know what I was getting into, marrying a pastor. I had to move away from my family, I had no support system, the people in the church were critical and did not understand the sacrifices I had made so they could have a pastor, they didn’t care for me or take care of me when I needed it, I work hard supporting my husband but they’re critical because I’m not outgoing, they gossip about me, and any pastor’s wife who doesn’t go through all of the above is an anomaly.”

I think my summation is fair, but a lot of people commented and basically said what I said yesterday, only much more kindly and with more tact, suggesting ways for this pastor’s wife to look at the blessings in her life and deal with the bad. In response, she posted this, which is basically a round-up of the worst kind of horror stories you could ever read from the parish. They’re like Law and Order, Ripped from the Headlines: Pastor’s Wife Version. We’re talking parishioners shooting out the parsonage windows, parishioners dropping into the parsonage uninvited to criticize the pastor’s wife’s cleaning skills or wasting of energy, parishioners who refuse to give the pastor a raise even when they have the money, LWML ladies who sit across the room from the pastor’s wife because they can’t stand her.

This is some serious and heavy stuff, and frankly, a far cry from yesterday’s “I don’t like being a pastor’s wife” post. If these stories are true, I have to believe that they are the anomalies, not the “good experiences” the author says almost no pastor’s wife has. Again, I don’t want to undermine the pain that some pastors and their wives can and do go through at the hands of a congregation. Pastors and their wives who are truly being abused by their congregations should seek help with the district, synod, and with counseling. I have heard many good things about Doxology (Lutheran) as well as Grace Place, and I don’t discount for a second that there might come a time when my husband and I desperately need counseling and healing and support after a bad experience in the parish. Jesus never promised that preaching the Gospel (and being the supportive wife of the preacher) was going to be easy.

That said, I hope no one in any parish we’ve ever been in will accidentally come across these posts on the internet and assume that, because this pastor’s wife says every or nearly every pastor’s wife feels this way, that I or my mom or other generally-content pastor’s wives feel this way. I would be shamed and embarrassed.  I can’t tell you how we–my family growing up and now my own family–have been wrapped in love and care and blessings from our congregations. Were there ever tough times? Of course. Have we dealt with difficulties and even some difficult people? Yes and yes. But our church families as a whole have been incredible, and I would hate for any of them to think we could possibly harbor these feelings about them.

I think we all have that first story, the one where you move away from your family, have kids and no support system, get into a church where things are different than what you’re used to and you realize you can’t just waltz in and make changes, and you have to figure out your role, where you fit in, what you can do in your vocation as pastor’s wife and parishioner while still fulfilling your other vocations as wife and mother. It takes time to figure out. It’s easy to feel sad and lonely and as if you don’t have anyone to talk to. It’s way too easy to start feeling paranoid, feeling that the ladies don’t like you and are critical of you. And that feeling can become a cancer that takes over your thoughts and heart and makes you resent every little thing and feel put upon and neglected and worn out. It’s the devil, trying to undermine your faith and your husband’s service in the church.

Don’t let the devil win.

And if you relate to the horror stories in the anonymous pastor’s wife’s second post, get help. Do not stay broken and beaten. Know that God has a plan for you, too. And go read 1 Peter 3:8-22, particularly verse 14.

Addendum to the addendum

Just read this post from Erin on 6 Things I Love About Being a Pastor’s Wife. What she said. 

 

 

Pity, party of one and other happenings

Anyone who complains this bitterly and blindly about a vocation God has given her should, in no particular order, join the military, read this post, read this book, and watch Ratatouille, particularly this scene about perspective (which, by the way, goes nicely with a bottle of Cheval Blanc 1947).

I’m not trying to minimize a person’s feelings and/or sufferings, but when you’re overwhelmed with negativity, it’s a good idea to put together a balance sheet and start thinking about your blessings. I mean, at this moment I could truthfully state all of the following: I have a migraine. Kate is being difficult. Jonathan only wants me right now and while it’s flattering I can’t even sneak away to the bathroom without him bawling for me. “I want to pick you up!” The pollen is so thick you can see a layer of it on the porch table that I wipe off every night, and it’s making my eyes itch so badly I want to grow my nails and scratch my eyeballs out. I’m walking 2-4 miles a day, watching what I eat, and this $&#%* weight STILL won’t melt off. And a church thing in the spirit of the aforementioned post: I am default VBS director and it’s not really my forte.

But so what? That stuff? It’s called life. There’s a lot of good stuff happening, too, namely….

Spring is in full throttle. Green and flowers are everywhere. The weather is sunny and in the 70s. We eat dinner nearly every night on the porch, knowing that soon it will be hot enough to choke the breath out of our lungs and we’ll be thankful for air conditioning.

My business is (oh-so-very-slowly) coming together. Meanwhile, my replacement at The Company is moving out of state, and they called to offer me a part-time telecommuting job. I declined. And yes, this is on the happy side of the ledger.

Derek’s birthday is Sunday, and the girls and boy huddled together in the dining room yesterday afternoon to create, invent, and direct a spectacular card/book/show. I had as much fun listening to them as they had working on it.

I’m going with Derek to the Fall Creek Falls pastor’s conference the first week in May. I’ve never been, there’s great hiking, and Pastor Weedon and Pastor Wilken are the guest speakers. We aren’t taking a vacation this year so this is a little mini-getaway for us while the kids party at the grandparents’.

Derek’s brother, sister-in-law, and our nephew are coming to visit at the end of May. We’re excited to see them and to show them all the things we love about this place. My dad will probably stop in this summer between LCMS convention and his “Reconnect,” a required appearance at the IC a few days later. I’m hoping my sisters will be next.